310. Teen Admits Lying? What to Say First
“Mom, I need to tell you something.”
Your teen finally admits that the story they gave you wasn’t true.
You wanted honesty. Now you’re upset about what you’re hearing—and ready to announce a consequence.
What should you say first?
In episode 310 of The Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly, LCSW and Parent and Family Coach, shares a practical Quick Reset for responding when your teen tells a difficult truth.
You’ll learn how to acknowledge their honesty, hear what happened, and decide on a response that keeps responsibility clear.
You can appreciate the admission and still address the behavior.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What to say immediately after your teen admits lying.
- How to acknowledge honesty when you’re still upset.
- How to take a pause and give a clear time to return.
- Why listening before deciding can help you understand what needs attention.
- How to respond to “Then why did I tell you if I’m still in trouble?”
- How to choose a relevant next step, including a consequence when needed.
- What to say if your first reaction was a lecture.
One sentence to try:
“I’m glad you told me. I want to understand what happened before I decide what comes next.”
Your reset:
Practice that sentence before the next difficult admission. Let your teen finish, then work through the next step.
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