How Single Parents Can Manage Anger During Screen Time Fights, Teen Attitude & Burnout
Jan 27, 2026
If you're a single parent raising a tween or teen, chances are you've had a moment (or fifty) where your kid’s attitude, screen time habits, or questionable choices (hello, vaping and drinking) have pushed you to your absolute limit.
But here’s the truth most parenting books don’t tell you:
Anger isn’t the enemy. Shame is.
In a recent episode of The Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly sat down with Dr. Mitch Abrams, a forensic and sports psychologist with decades of experience in emotional regulation and trauma recovery. He’s also the author of I'm Not F**ing Angry*, a provocative (but powerful) book that reframes how we deal with emotional intensity — especially as parents.
Why Anger Is Normal — And Useful
Dr. Abrams explains that anger is a hardwired, protective emotion. It’s your brain’s way of signaling that something important is at stake — a boundary crossed, a threat perceived, or an injustice felt.
For single parents, the anger often comes from:
- Burnout and lack of support
- Endless power struggles around screen time
- Fear-driven conflict around vaping, drinking, and risky behavior
- Feeling disrespected or emotionally exhausted by constant attitude
The problem? Most parents were never taught how to use anger as data — only how to suppress it. And when we suppress anger, it builds until it explodes… often at the wrong time, in the wrong way.
3 Tools for Handling Parenting Conflict with Confidence
Here are 3 tools Dr. Abrams shared for using your anger more effectively:
1. Use the Reverse Timeout
When you're too heated to parent effectively, step away — not your child. Say, "I’m upset, and I want to handle this well. I’m going to take a few minutes to calm down."
2. Track Your Triggers
Notice when your patience wears thin — is it after 8 PM? When you're dealing with screen time? Identify those patterns to better prepare.
3. Teach Emotional Awareness
Help your teen name what they’re feeling — even when they’re yelling “I’m NOT angry!” Model how to manage anger without shame.
The Real Goal: Emotional Regulation, Not Perfection
Parenting teens is messy — and being a single parent adds another layer of complexity. But emotional regulation isn’t about being calm all the time. It’s about learning when and how to cool down, recover, and reconnect.
Whether you’re battling burnout or scared about what your teen’s vaping habit might mean — you’re not alone. And you don’t have to “hold it together” 24/7 to be a great parent.
Want more support?
🎧 Listen to the full episode with Dr. Mitch Abrams on The Single Parenting Reset Show.
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